It’s free and you don’t have to match with anyone to be able to talk to them, so if you have lots of free time this is a great app for you.I met a few guys that I’m still friends with and I learned that just because a guy messages you, you don’t have to respond.
However, one of the quickest filters that you can notice from the beginning is this: 11.
The League is an exclusive app that uses your Facebook and Linked In to weed out the people who don’t have jobs.
When I “applied” it told me that there were over 15,000 people ahead of me in line to join. I paid to join and then ended up “chatting” endlessly with more dudes than I care to admit to.
You can ask your jaded friends who’ve been on Plenty of Fish for years and still haven’t caught a single guppy let alone a whale, but they’ll discourage you and tell you horror stories and you’ll have plenty of your own soon enough.
I dove in and this is what I’ve discovered about these dating apps:“OKCupid is NOT Okay,” my girlfriend told me but I joined anyway and shifted through the hundreds of messages from mostly nice guys.
It’s free but when you match with someone, the girl has to start the conversation.
I liked that but some of my girlfriends think it’s the guy’s job to pursue the girl so they won’t join.
When I was in my early twenties, if a guy acted aloof, called back only sometimes and showed minimal interest, I would get hooked.
You could say I was addicted to the bad boy/ unavailable boy/ player.
Instead of relying on beauty as my source of empowerment, I focused on basing my empowerment on my intelligence, successes, values, contributions to the world and how I helped others. In fact, some people regardless of their age, will never really grow up.
You can switch the genders in this post and most points would likely still apply.
Or, read this post on “The 11 Differences Between Dating a Girl vs a Woman“.