Sobriety and dating

15-Aug-2016 08:13 by 5 Comments

Sobriety and dating

Getting sober is one thing, but dating while sober is a completely different animal.During my first attempt at recovery I thought I was the cat’s meow and the bee’s knees.

I want to share with you all some of my experience as well as my point of view on the subject.

I think the earliest I ever dated in early sobriety was when I had just over five months.

Five months compared to 15 years of constant using is nothing.

” Needless to say, there was a lot of unmet expectations and hurt feelings in our relationship, and when that fog started to settle I saw exactly what kind of program he was working – which wasn’t much of one.

I’m not saying judge your significant other’s sobriety, however it would be wise to pay attention when you are dating to see if they are keeping their recovery first.

Ever since freshman year of high school, I always had a girlfriend.

Most of my relationships lasted quite a while too, but many of them weren’t healthy at all.Well, just when I think I grasp hold of the dating department, no matter how much clean time I have, I find myself racking my brain with simple mistakes that I could have dodged.Other people tried to warn me about mistakes I would want to avoid, but I’m stubborn and don’t like to listen. I could write a whole novel on mistakes I’ve made while dating, but here are just a few.I’ve been given a gift and now try to never lose sight of why I have it or where I came from.When we first get sober, we have dozens of suggestions thrown our way, and a lot of them seem silly. They tell us to get a sponsor to walk us through the steps.” I often thought in my head “that won’t happen to me.” Sure, I didn’t feel lonely anymore, but I found filling that void with meaningless physical contact left me feeling worse.